Proverbs 18:20 New Living Translation (NLT) Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction.
Words are very important in our lives. When I close my eyes and think about my childhood and the people that mean the most to my heart, there are always words of affirmation that go along with their image in my mind. Let me share a few examples:
My mother was the first person in my recollection that gave me a sense of favor! Before I even went to elementary school when it was just the two of us she would say, “Genie, you can be anything you want to be when you grow up…”
These words that were spoken to me at a young tender age and repeated over the years took root in my heart. Now years later, I still have great confidence that anything that I put my mind to accomplish – I will/can do it. Now what my mother told me became a truth to my heart that I embraced and have lived by. As I grew up, I did encounter people that would tell me – you can’t do that or you don’t have the training for that… But I know what my mother had told me and I believed it in my heart.
Have I been disappointed, yes a few times but not many. But the more important thing that I learned from “You can be anything” was the scriptures that I learned that matched up with the words of encouragement given to me so many years ago.
Mark 10:27 New Living Translation (NLT) Jesus looked at them intently and said, “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But not with God. Everything is possible with God.”
Romans 8:37 New King James Version (NKJV) Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.
So now coupled with the words spoken by my mother – that were positive, uplifting and encouraging; I have scriptures that speak life to my being as well. You see I am now also God’s daughter and He says that with Him everything is possible and that I am more than a conqueror because of His love for me!
My Pops (Dad or Father) is another person from my early years that gave me a sense of family and belonging. He would say, “Genie, you’re my girl” Now mind you I am the first born child to my parents and their only daughter. But that didn’t matter and doesn’t matter. The feeling that I still get when I hear my Pops speak those words to me make my heart sing. You see no one can ever make me believe that I am not his or that I am not important to him. It is not the times at the park, buying fruit on the side of the road or going to 31 Flavors for ice cream that stand out the most – but the words he would constantly speak to me about being his daughter that let me know I am loved and I belong.
I always have been confident in my father’s love for me. This was a gift of words that had been spoken over me my whole life. These words helped me as I went through my first marriage and was told that I was worthless and good for nothing by my husband. I knew that even though this abusive person spoke words of evil – I had a father who loved me and I belonged to him!
God is no less, but much greater than my earthly father! Let’s see what He says about us:
Matthew 5:9 King James Version (KJV) Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
Romans 8:16-17 New Living Translation (NLT) 16 For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. 17 And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory. But if we are to share his glory, we must also share his suffering.
Galatians 3:26-27 New Living Translation (NLT) 26 For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. 27 And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes.
God is our heavenly Father for those of us who have received salvation! I am His girl! I belong to Him, my Daddy God! What a wonderful thing to know where I belong, that I have family and so do you if you have received Salvation through Jesus Christ!
Words, Words, Words are so very important!
Here in the States many of us have been raised with the little saying: “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me” Unfortunately though the intention (I believe) was to help children overcome bullying and to give them a sense of control/self-esteem. This little saying is a lie! Words do hurt. Words stay with us longer than bruises we receive when we fall down or than it takes a bone to heal from a break!
Let’s see what the Bible has to say about words:
Psalm 19:14 New King James Version (NKJV) Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.
Psalm 37:30 New King James Version (NKJV) The mouth of the righteous speaks wisdom, and his tongue talks of justice.
Psalm 59:12 New King James Version (NKJV) For the sin of their mouth and the words of their lips, let them even be taken in their pride, and for the cursing and lying which they speak.
Proverbs 10:31-32 New King James Version (NKJV) 31 The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, but the perverse tongue will be cut out.
32 The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked what is perverse.
Proverbs 15:28 New King James Version (NKJV) The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil.
Proverbs 16:23-24 New King James Version (NKJV) 23 The heart of the wise teaches his mouth, and adds learning to his lips. 24 Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.
Ecclesiastes 5:2-3 New King James Version (NKJV) 2 Do not be rash with your mouth, and let not your heart utter anything hastily before God. For God is in heaven, and you on earth; therefore let your words be few. 3 For a dream comes through much activity, And a fool’s voice is known by his many words.
Matthew 12:33-35 New King James Version (NKJV)33 “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. 34 Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. 35 A good man out of the good treasure of his heartbrings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things.
God Himself showed us that Words Are The Key through His examples!
God spoke and Light came into being here on earth!
Genesis 1:3-5 New King James Version (NKJV) 3 Then God said, “Let there be light”; and there was light. 4 And God saw the light, that it was good; and God divided the light from the darkness. 5 God called the light Day, and the darkness He called Night. So the evening and the morning were the first day.
God made mankind in His image!
Genesis 1:26-27 New King James Version (NKJV) 26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
Since we are made in the image of God, it is very important the words that we speak. That is why God revealed to us our abilities through speech in these verses and many more.
Proverbs 18:21 New King James Version (NKJV) Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Matthew 5:44 New King James Version (NKJV) But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,
Romans 12:14-15 New King James Version (NKJV) 14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.
Encourage yourself in the Lord like David of old:
1 Samuel 30:6 King James Version (KJV) And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the Lord his God.
As a child of God I encourage you to Speak Life -to yourself and to all those you encounter!
Colossians 3:12-17 New King James Version (NKJV)12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. 14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17 And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
I have found that my personal “love language” is Words of Affirmation. I thrive when encouraged to do better, when I am thanked for my efforts, and when love for me is confirmed by soft tones and adjectives describing that love. My Warrior Husband knows my love language and takes great care to speak to my heart. Even where there are hard or difficult things that need to be addressed or discussed, he prays and asks God to help open our hearts and minds to understand His ways and to make our paths straight. He does not come at me guns blazing with harsh hurtful words that would only make me shut down and come back at him with my cannon or torpedo launcher!
This is week two of Lockdown for my husband’s unit. It is Wednesday so we are more than 2/3 through this season of little communication. Being a wife of an inmate has some unique challenges but also great opportunities for creative ways to express my love and care for my husband that may not have occurred to me if he was home!
“Double Portion Week” – since my beloved and I have not been able to communicate through the phone due to lockdown. What that means is I took this Opportunity to Send Extra Words of Encouragement, Love, Peace and Joy to my husband! My husband may have more physical restrictions than normal due to prison rules and regulations but Words Transcend physical confinement. Words can Uplift, Words can Encourage and my Love can be felt through the gift of the Written Word. We are God’s creation and our Words Do Matter!
Even if Words of Affirmation is not your primary “love language” – it is best to Speak Life at all times. I encourage Warriors in God’s Army – Man, Woman, Boy or Girl; Married, Single, Dating, Widowed – it doesn’t matter. Begin to Speak Life today! To yourself, to all those you encounter – you never know, it may be the key to bring someone closer to our Father God than ever before.
Words Are Key – Speak Life Today and Always!
Sincerely Warrior Bride of Christ,
Mrs. Donnie W. Ojemann,
All I am, All For HIM!